Pauline is a psychotherapist in San Francisco who works with couples who are questioning the reality of their relationships. They are working very hard to escape the comfort of their routine in order to move on to a closer level of intimacy with each other. They are also trying to give themselves a moment to stop and question if they are still in love.
Pauline listens to her patients trying to recuperate their previous level of excitement in their relationship and at the same time questions if it is easier to find a new love or to try to maintain the romance in their existing relationships. They don't want to give up but they don't want to continue living without the enlivening effect that love has to offer.
As her clients question their love scenarios, Pauline reflects on her own relationship and her own thoughts about romance. She believes that as time goes by couples stop being amorous with each other and that they should try to loose the fear of exposing their difficulties in their relationships and try to share their needs and expectations more frequently.
The book describes insightful discoveries inside different relationship scenarios were many times they find out that their life was not what it appeared to be.